Tuesday, September 26, 2023

Not All Ghosts Are Bad

HANK PHILLIPPI RYAN:  Know what I absolutely love? The days when we have to think–wow, there’s so much we simply don’t know. 



And more about the absolutely wonderfully talented Meredith Lyons below. And about her brand new book GHOST TAMER.


But first…yeah, what can I say. There's so much we simply don’t know.  This is such a heartbreakingly haunting story.




Not All Ghosts Are Bad

   By Meredith R. Lyons


I can’t point to an exact age, but I know I was young. I remember how my bedroom was arranged—and I remember exactly how old I was when I decided to take charge of my own feng shui and shove the furniture into a new position—so I’m going to guess between ten and twelve. 


Often enough that it was unremarkable, I woke up during the night to find a girl pacing near the foot of my bed. Talking. She was always talking. As if I was waking up halfway through her monologue. In full flow, as if she was trying to work out a problem or vent about something irritating. If I ever tried to comment on anything she said, if I tried to enter the conversation at all, she stopped. She stopped walking, stopped talking, looked directly at me, and vanished.


I didn’t ever think much of it. I was tired, I went back to sleep, and forgot about it in the morning. I never remembered these visits, and to this day I can remember nothing that she said.


Except the last thing.


One night I opened my eyes to find she wasn’t talking. She wasn’t walking. And what’s more, she wasn’t by the foot of my bed. She was standing right beside my pillow, gazing down at me with a huge smile on her face. As if something marvelous had happened to her and she was bursting to share the news.

I didn’t feel afraid. 


As soon as I met her eyes she said, “Goodbye!” And slowly faded away.


“Where ya going?” I asked. But she was gone.


The next morning, for the first time, I remembered her. I remembered all the other times, too. But I never saw her again.


At first, I tried to tell people about her, but no one believed me. Adults said I was dreaming. Kids were either skeptical or tried to fabricate their own ghost stories to top mine. Eventually, I just kept it to myself.


One night in my twenties, drunk after a night out in Chicago, I found myself beside my friend Gillian while the rest of our group walked on ahead. I’m not sure why, but I told her the story. 


“Did she look like you?” she asked in her Dublin accent.


“Yeah, I guess she kind of did.” I was ready for her to tell me I was dreaming.


“Did your mum have a miscarriage before you?” 


I was surprised. How would she have guessed that? “She did.” 


“It was your sister checking up on you.”


I can’t describe the feeling that went through me then, but it was a rightness. A joy. Not only had my story not been dismissed as the diaphanous dreams of a sleepy child, but a new possibility had been introduced. 


I still kept this story mostly to myself. It was rare that anyone connected to it in that way and it was a special memory to me. A nice thought that I didn’t care to tarnish with too much outside scoffing.


Years later, I decided to write about a nightmare that I’d had where I was riding the el train and it flew off the rails. “This will be a nice, normal story with normal people,” I thought to myself, having done a lot of writing about aliens and unicorns. But as I was writing it, I thought, “What about a ghost or two?”



And not too far into the writing of it, I remembered my childhood ghost and decided that not all of the ghosts had to be bad.


Maybe some are indifferent. Maybe others actually care about us and want to make sure we’re doing well. Maybe some even protect us from the bad ones.


This story I didn’t hide away. I didn’t keep it quiet or private and it’s turned into a decent book. As I’ve rolled through the different stages of bringing it to life, I’ve thought more about my little ghost visitor than ever before. I hope she’s doing well wherever she ended up. I hope it was as fantastic as she seemed to think it would be. And I thank her for the inspiration.


HANK: I’m so touched that this gives you peace, Meredith. And may it do the same for all of us.

You all, Meredith is an absolute powerhouse, lookit that bio! And her book is terrific–I loved it.

In answer to the question posed by the title, though–I’m not sure I ever thought all ghosts were bad. How about you, Reds and Readers?


Death is one thing, it's what you do afterward that matters. 

Aspiring comedian Raely is the sole survivor of a disastrous train wreck. While faced with the intense grief of losing her best friend, she realizes that someone is following her—and has been following her all her life. Trouble is, no one else can see him. For a ghostly tag-along, Casper’s not so bad. He might even be the partner Raely needs to fight the evil spirit hell-bent on destroying her.

Raely and her friend must learn why this demonic spirit is haunting Raely and how she can stop him before he destroys her life—and her soul. Which, much to her chagrin, means she needs the help of a psychic (although she’s sure they are all charlatans) and must rid herself of the pesky ghost hunter who’s interested in exploiting her new abilities.





Meredith Lyons
grew up in New Orleans, collecting two degrees from Louisiana State University before running away to Chicago to be an actor. In between plays, she got her black belt and made martial arts and yoga her full-time day job. She fought in the Chicago Golden Gloves, ran the Chicago Marathon, and competed for team U.S.A. in the savate world championships in Paris. In spite of doing each of these things twice, she couldn’t stay warm and relocated to Nashville. She owns several swords, but lives a non-violent life, saving all swashbuckling for the page, knitting scarves, gardening, visiting coffee shops, and cuddling with her husband and two panther-sized cats. She’s a member of International Thriller Writers and Sisters in Crime. 
Ghost Tamer is her first novel.



80 comments:

  1. Congratulations, Meredith, on your debut novel . . . it sounds captivating; it's definitely on my must-read list.

    I'm definitely in the "not all ghosts are bad" group . . . some of them are little girls who come to play with the babies when no one is around to keep them company.

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    1. I knew you, especially would love this story, Joan! Xx

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    2. Thank you so much, Joan! And I do really love the stories of children with friendly ghosts. I'd love to know what you think about the book when you read it!

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  2. I’m in the “all ghosts are not bad” camp, too.

    My son was three when my mother died. About six months after, I went to a book signing for Sinclair Browning’s book, “Feathers Brush My Heart” (about mothers contacting their daughters after the mothers have died). It’s been more than 20 years so I don’t remember clearly what happened, but I talked with Ms. Browning about my son seeming to see something or someone whom I could not see. She asked if anyone in my life had recently passed away and when I said my mother had, she said she thought that’s who my son was seeing. She said that young children “are accepting of things that aren’t easily explained because they haven’t been taught not to.” I’ve always thought that if things were fair, we’d be able to visit with our departed loved ones once a year.

    Congratulations and best of luck on your new book! — Pat S

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    1. Wouldn't that be lovely Pat, if we could visit with the ones we've loved and lost?

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    2. That is such a beautiful explanation. Incredibly thought-provoking. Xxx

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    3. I love this so much. I play with a similar concept in the book and that scene is usually one of the ones readers respond to the most. Thanks so much for sharing. Gave me warm fuzzies!

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  3. I don't see ghosts but I hear voices calling my name. My dad visits me in my dreams quite often, my mom only once and she was having a good time with all of the family that has joined her in the great beyond. Congrats on your new book!!

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    1. Oh, that is the best image! Wonderful, wonderful…Xx

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    2. I've had dream visits too! Even from pets that have passed on. I usually get one last good dream with them before they finally go. (And thank you for the congrats!)

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    3. Meredith, our elderly dog had surgery and was doing well. We got a call from the vet at about 5:00 a.m. saying she had taken a turn. I jumped in the shower and my husband headed to the animal hospital; he was able to get there before she passed to say goodbye, but I wasn’t. I was tired so went back to bed when we retuned home and had a dream about the dog. In it, I was in the backyard talking with our neighbor when I felt something jump against the back of my legs. I turned and saw our dog running around and smiling at me. In the dream, I asked the neighbor if he saw the dog and he said, “What dog?” I knew then she’d come to say goodbye to me. — Pat S

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    4. Pat, that brought tears to my eyes.

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  4. Congratulations on your debut book, it sounds fascinating. I love ghost stories, and this sounds like a unique one. I've never seen one, but I believe they exist, and instinctively I feel not all ghosts are bad. There must be so many non-ominous reasons why they might linger.

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    1. I love that! And of course, there would be reassuring and practical reasons why they might linger… It makes no sense that they would all be bad. Or even most :-)

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    2. Thank you! :-) And yes, I feel like ghosts are like people. (As I say in the book; surely ghosts are at least "person-lite.") So they would run the range of personalities and motivations. And love is a powerful motivation to linger.

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  5. MEREDITH: Congratulations on your debut novel! I am also in the "not all ghosts are bad" group. It's comforting to know that Gillian's response to your childhood ghost story gave you joy.
    I have never encountered a ghost but I do believe that spirits remain on this earth for good and bad reasons.

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    1. What a really incredible moment that must’ve been— and Meredith writes about it so beautifully, don’t you think?

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    2. Thank you so much, Grace! And I agree. Energy can neither be created nor destroyed, only converted from one form to another. It stands to reason that not all forms are ones we completely understand.

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  6. As a person that has seen a few ghosts, they are good, well at least the ones I've seen.

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    1. Of course, your ghosts would be good, Dru Ann! you are the essence of good!

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    2. That makes me happy. And makes me wish I had seen a few more. :-)

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  7. I was so moved by your personal story I had to snatch myself away to read about the book! Congratulations. I look forward to reading it.

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    1. Hooray! It’s really good… I know you will enjoy it…!

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    2. Thank you so much, Maren! I'd love to know what you think once you finish. XO

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  8. Congratulations, Meredith!

    I've experienced "visitations" with beloved pets who have passed and come back to let me know they're no longer suffering, and I've definitely felt the presence of my grandparents. Of course, I dream about my parents, but have never felt that they've come back to check on me, probably because they're out on some heavenly golf course with my aunts and uncles.

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    1. That is the most wonderful image! Love that so much . Yes, I have definitely been visited by my dear cat Lola. And I treasure those times.

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    2. Annette, I've also been visited by my pets. I usually get at least one dream with them wher eI get to hug them one last time and tell them how much I miss them. I feel like they're just saying goodbye again before they move on to where ever they're off to next. My mother said she kept waiting for my grandma to visit once after she died, but she never did. I said I think she knew she'd left everyone in a good place and had lots of other people to see where ever she was now. She would have been 100 years old on the 29th of October.

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  9. Meredith, what a wonderful story, and that you were able to use parts in your first novel is even better. What a wise Irish friend you had. Did you tell her the effect her comment had on you?

    I used to be afraid of the idea of ghosts, but I've come around to understanding that some might be good, like yours, or at least benevolent.

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    1. I've also had a few really lovely dreams when my father or mother or my beloved Aunt Jo were present. I could tell all was well with them, and that they were sending me love. I always wake up happy to have seen them again.

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    2. Edith, I remember telling her at the time, but we've lost touch in the years since. It would be fun if this somehow reached her across the internet, or if she found the book someday.

      I think we do get visited in dreams more often as adults. It's probably easier for us to accept that way.

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    3. Yes, it is so reassuring. And...really makes you wonder.

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  10. Love the story of your ghost Meredith! The book sounds so intriguing. I wonder if you had difficulty moving away from your own ghost story to write the one in the book?

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    1. Oh, great question!

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    2. Hi Lucy! Once the story got going, the characters took it over and made it their own. My own experiences added color, but Raely and Casper definitely had their own adventure. Our imaginations are almost like their own separate person sometimes, right? I'm still amazed at some of the stuff that comes out.

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  11. Congratulations, Meredith! And thank you for sharing. I'm a firm believer that we don't know everything there is to know about the world in which we live.

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  12. Ghosts sure have a bad rap, don't they? And undeserved, for so many of us who have experienced benevolent spirits.

    How wonderful, to think your visitor was your unborn sister, Meredith. That has to have given you great comfort.

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    1. Hi Karen, and yes, they do get a bad rap! I think we're instinctively afraid of things we don't fully comprehend.

      I'm glad to know she was happy at the end. She seemed so incredibly filled with joy when she said goodbye. Maybe she was off to finally be born.

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    2. What a lovely thought! I hope that's true, and that she is having a wonderful life somewhere.

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  13. Wow Meredith what an amazing story about your ghost sister. It really makes you wonder what is going on - there is so much we don't know about the hereafter - or is it how the brain works through things? We just don't know.

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    1. We don't know, do we? And I think that's kind of a wonderful thing. How boring if we knew everything about everything. :-)

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    2. Yes, it must be the brain working through things. BUT fascinating that it manifests in such similar ways in different people.

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  14. I don't think all ghosts are bad - just like people. That's a wonderful feeling to have your sister check on you.

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    1. I agree: just like people. It was a wonderful feeling. I still don't think I'm adequately putting it into words. :-)

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    2. Well...people certainly seem to be connecting with it! But I understand, I think--when I got the visit from Lola, it was very...different. Not like a dream at all.

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  15. I'm definitely down on the "we don't know everything" side of the fence. And the Catholic Church definitely says the supernatural is out there - and it's just not something to toy with. Look at all the visitations over the centuries. So yeah, not all ghosts or spirits or whatever you want to call them are bad.

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    1. I agree, Liz, how could we ever know? And I feel like there are references to spirits in so many religions. I feel lucky that I got to experience a visit once in my life.

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  16. Meredith, welcome to JRW!

    Does your story take place this year or many years ago ? I do not think all ghosts are bad, just like people are. I thought it was interesting about the name Casper because I immediately thought of Casper the Friendly Ghost.

    Though I have never "seen" a ghost, sometimes I feel a tap on my shoulders and no one is there. If I ever saw a ghost in person, would the ghost know Sign Language? Would it be American or British Sign Language? Or Sign Language as signed hundreds of years ago?

    Wonderful feeling to have your sister check on you.

    Diana

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    1. Thank you for the welcome, Diana! My book takes place nowish, but once you read, you'll see very early that "Casper" doesn't know his name, but insists he's friendly, and Raely at first calls him Casper as a sarcastic joke, but it sticks. I wondered if it would be too dated, but Casper still seems very well known as everyone is catching the joke. My mom even bought me a little Casper the Friendly Ghosts light up Halloween thing for my launch party. :-)

      I think ghosts would be able to understand what you were saying in any language. I feel like there's a 'feeling' of what's being communicated more than a 'speaking' if that makes sense. But... I know very very little. :-)

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    2. Agree..it would be whatever kind of communication worked. ALTHOUGH in a novel, it might be a good plot point to make the ghost not able to communicate. Hmm.

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    3. Meredith, congratulations on your Debut novel! And I love what you said about communication. Reminds me of a joke "This elderly Deaf man refuses to die until God learns Sign Language"

      Hank, perhaps the only people who can "see" the ghost are people fluent in Sign Language - regardless of their hearing ability? They can read Signs and express themselves well in Sign Language?

      Diana

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    4. Diana, thank you so much! And thank you for the joke, lol!

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  17. I'm firmly in the camp of: when you die, it's game over. But that doesn't keep me from believing the kind of vision/dream that Meredith had. "There's more things in heaven and earth..."

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    1. Hamlet (1.5.167-8) what a perfect quote to illustrate the sentiment. As a 17 year veteran of the Chicago stage, I appreciate this. :-)

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  18. Judi, that story gave me shivers! How lovely! I think she WAS visiting you. Energy can neither be created nor destroyed... and love has to be a kind of energy. It lives on in some way.

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  19. Meredith - I love everything about this post! And I am absolutely ordering Ghost Tamer TODAY! I do not think all ghosts have to be bad in fact I suspect most are indifferent because they're likely busy, you know?

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  20. Amazing story, Meredith. Kudos to your Irish friend for supplying the perfect, and comforting solution. How old were you, and what was going on in your life when she decided it was safe to leave you? That would make an interesting story, too.

    I firmly believe in the spirit world, and that they are benevolent creatures. Mostly. There is the odd devil out there!

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    1. Kait, I think you're right. Just like people, most ghosts may have good intentions... with just the odd malevolent being giving the rest a bad rap.

      I think I was around 13? So probably just around that age where that last bit of easy innocence fades away.

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  21. Wow! Your books sounds marvelous, Meredith! And of course ghosts can be good. And of course there's so much we don't understand. How horribly dull and depressing life would be if the here and now that we can see and touch were really all there were. Can't wait to read your book!

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  22. That is so vivid, and so profound. And yes, Meredith, the energy.

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  23. Good to meet you, Meredith, and great news about your debut novel. Thanks to your extraordinary biography, I now know what savate is, and I'm tremendously impressed.

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    1. Nice to meet you as well, Kim! And isn't it a cool martial art? I'm so glad I got the chance to compete.

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  24. Hi Meredith! Just had to buy your book! I love a good ghost story! And I do believe "there are more things in heaven and earth." My only encounter was a good one. I had a "visitation" from my grandmother on the morning of her funeral. A dream, maybe, but so much more intense than any normal dream. She was telling me that she was in a good place, and that she loved me, and it was so envelopingly intense, if that makes sense. We were very close and I've always been sure that it was her spirit telling me goodbye.
    Looking forward to meeting Raely and Caspar now, and congrats on your debut!

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    1. Deborah, thank you so much! I can't wait to see what you think of it.

      And what an awesome story, I got goosebumps. (The good kind.) I know what you mean. The 'goodbye' dreams just hit different somehow. They seem "more."

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  25. How interesting! If people can be both good and bad, why not ghosts? It sounds like whatever your ghost was working through she found a happy solution. What a lovely story.

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    1. I agree completely. And I am very glad that she stopped by to tell me goodbye. :-)

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  26. Congratulations on the debut of GHOST TAMER, Meredith! The best stories flow from a combination of "what-if" and our personal passions, so this sounds perfect for you.

    Inasmuch as I believe in ghosts - I go back and forth - I've always assumed they weren't actively malevolent; more like a projection of events from a person's life. Sleeping over at my grandmother's house, I could sometimes hear pans rattling in the kitchen in the wee hours of the night; grandma told me that was HER grandmother, who had owned the house and who loved to cook for her large family. I liked the idea that she was still there, taking care of us.

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    1. Julia, I love that story! That your great-grandmother still stopped by to cook when everyone came over. All of these stories of love. So, so wonderful to read.

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    2. Yes, a comforting and benevolent presence..

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  27. My father passed away at 93, after spending his last year with dementia. We were very close, and at times communicated telepathically (l'd call when he wished it). He died very suddenly, as he had hoped. For 48 hours, I was filled with a sense of elation unlike anything I'd experienced. It was his last and greatest gift, letting me know that he was free of the burdens of age and that wherever he was, in whatever form, he was joyous and wanted to let me know.

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    1. This reminds me of when I saw my friend Erin in hospice. (She is one of the people the book is dedicated to.) I was torn apart after I saw her, just trapped in that wreck of a body. (Cancer.) I was a mess. I could barely function, I couldn't stop thinking about her. Two days later she died and I was suddenly okay. I had a dream about her shortly after where I kept trying to help her do things like climb stairs and she said, "Stop. You don't have to help me anymore, I'm okay now!" She grinned and sprinted away.

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    2. And this is why you are here today.

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  28. Congratulations, Meredith

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