JULIA SPENCER-FLEMING: During the two-week heat wave we had in Maine, I was performing a very specific morning ritual. I would set my alarm for 5:30am to 6:30am, depending on when the last of the nighttime cooler temperatures ended. I’d go through the upstairs and downstairs, pulling fans out of the windows, closing them and drawing the curtains on the east side of the house. Then back to my bedroom, where the Shih Tzus hadn’t even stirred, and sleep until ten.
It was genuinely lovely to see the earliest light and feel the fresh air. In fact, every time I’ve been up and about at dawn in recent years, I enjoy it. I wish my ideal morning started with rising at six. But let’s face it. I spent thirty years rising at six - first as a law student, then working, then as a parent X 3 - and by the time the kids were old enough to oversee getting themselves dressed and out the door, they needed to be driven to school.
And for
thirty years, even when I didn’t have to get up early, I was constantly
annoyed by blessed with a husband who was the larkiest of larks to ever
take wing. Ross disagreed with the poet: morning’s at six, or even better,
five-thirty. He couldn’t understand why I “needed so much sleep” - completely
unaware that when he went up to bed at 8pm to “read,” he would be snoring
beneath his book in fifteen minutes.
So despite the charms of the hill sides dew pearl’d, etc., I’ll continue to indulge myself in sleeping in. Maybe after thirty years of rising at nine or ten, I’ll be ready to see the dawn again.
How about you, Reds? If there’s no reason to set your alarm, are you larking about?
HANK PHILLIPPI RYAN: If there’s no reason to set my alarm, my eyes open at 5:30. Then they close as fast as they possibly can. FORGETABOUTIT. Then they open again at 7:30. I check—do I HAVE to get up? No? Okay, then, back to sleep. At 8:30 I am up up up because I don’t want to miss any of the fun of the day. Or the work-time.) I don’t go to sleep until about 12:30, though, so the awake-time span makes sense. (If I go to sleep too early, I miss too much of the fun of the night.)
LUCY BURDETTE: What is this thing you call ‘fun of the night’? LOL I definitely prefer morning and work better in the morning, though I’m not a 5:30 Lark like Ross was. 6:30 or 7 is a good time for me–I enjoy being up first when everyone except for Tbone is asleep. He’s so friendly to the first person to arrive–it sounds silly but I love it! The light very much affects how I sleep, and it gets light ridiculously early in Connecticut. (I would so be in favor of Daylight Savings going the way of the dodo.)
RHYS BOWEN: The larkiest of larks here. Even on days when I don’t have to wake up early I’m awake with the sun. Today it was 5:58AM. So before I got up I read my emails, took care of social media, booked train for four people from London to Cornwall, booked four air tickets to Marseille and then put the kettle on for breakfast. I can’t sleep in late no matter where I am. This is good as I get my best work done in those early hours. But I do tend to crash right before 10 at night these days (and sneak a nap in the afternoon).
HALLIE EPHRON: Count me in the LARK camp, too. Sadly I tend to wake up at 5 AM… MUCH too early but there you have it. It’s when the sun is up. And of course I’m asleep early (10 at the latest) so I should be getting enough sleep. That’s the theory at least. When I was working I’d negotiated an EARLY start to the day (at work by 6:30 AM) so I could leave at 3:30 and avoid the worst traffic and get to my kids. So maybe that’s where I got into the habit of rising early.
DEBORAH CROMBIE: I’m on Hank’s schedule, bed about midnight and up usually between 7:30 and 8, so neither a true lark or owl. This is partly my own natural inclination, and partly that Rick is a bonafide owl, so we tend to run late on meals, etc. all day. I like being up early once I’m up, but there is no way I’m going to sleep at 8 or 9 p.m.!
JENN McKINLAY: I’m an early bird! In bed reading by 10:00 and up at 6:00! I love morning but also my geriatric schnauzer Otto starts huffing at 5:30/6:00, demanding Hub or I get up. Who needs a rooster?
JULIA: How about you, dear reader? Do you prefer to hoot it up, or are you more inclined to lark about? Do you wish you were different? And for those of you half-remembering the source of today's blog title, I present Pippa's Song, by Robert Browning:
The year's at the spring,
And day's at the morn;
Morning's at seven;
The hill-side's dew-pearl'd;
The lark's on the wing;
The snail's on the thorn;
God's in His heaven,
All's right with the world!
If I don't have to be up early, not setting the alarm and sleeping in is wonderful [and I agree with Lucy . . . Daylight Saving Time needs to be gone] . . . .
ReplyDeleteSince my wife died two years ago, my sleep pattern has gone to hell in a handbasket. I can only sleep for maybe and hour or an hour and a half at a time, necessitating a number of naps during the day. I think it's my way of coping and I really don't mind it, especially since I have no intention of ever sharing my bed again.
ReplyDeleteIf it's your way of coping and you don't mind it, all good Jerry!
DeleteFrom Celia: Whatever works Jerry, is right for you.
DeleteI'm a natural lark. Heck, I'm on VACATION, and I woke at 5:30 this morning. I'm usually asleep around ten, and that's enough sleep, although on the odd morning I wake up at four, I enjoy an afternoon couch nap. Like Rhys, mornings are my best creative time.
ReplyDeleteAnd when I had the day job and kids at home, I also worked (like Hallie in hi-tech) the 6:30-3:00 "shift" - to be home in the afternoons and also to mostly avoid Boston rush hour traffic.
DeleteFor 13 years, I left home around 5:45 am to do the subway-bus-walk commute to the Environment Canada complex located in the most northern end of Toronto. I did a 9-hour compressed work day from 7:00 am-4:00 pm, so that I got every other Friday off.
DeleteWhen I moved to Ottawa in 2014, my new job & home meant I had a 3-minute walk to work! Talk about better work-life balance.
Grace, I worked that same schedule and loved it. Even though I've been retired for over a decade, I still find myself awake around 6 am, but convince myself I could use another hour just to feel a bit decadent. -- Victoria
DeleteI'm an early bird - I get up around 4ish, even on medical leave when I don't have to go into the office.
ReplyDeleteYikes, that's really early...
DeleteHubby has a work schedule like Hallie's, so we're up at 4:30 so he can be at work by 6, home by 3:30. I was hoping that his impending retirement at the end of August might change that, but I fear retraining Kensi Kitty might be a challenge. She sometimes let's me sleep until 5 a.m. on weekends but not often.
ReplyDeleteCats are the worst offenders!
DeleteJust curious, why do you get up just because your husband does?
DeleteCats are easy to fix, close your door.
No to shutting the door. My clever cats will put their feet underneath and try to pull it open, making as much noise as necessary. When they wake me, I tend to go back to sleep soon.
DeleteYes, I am an early bird, even in retirement.
ReplyDeleteI usually am asleep by 10:30 pm and awake before 5:00 am.
Today, I was up at 3:00 am, still saw Sunday's post, and went back to sleep.
Why not Grace--3 pm is still nighttime in my book!
DeleteYeah, but I usually just stay up once I am awake. But I am battling a summer cold, so I guess I needed the extra rest. I can't remember the last time I woke up after 6:30 am!
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ReplyDeleteI have to go to work at 9am, so I set the alarm during the week. And that alarm serves as the final marker for me to get out of bed Monday through Friday. Because I don't sleep through the night, I can wake up any time and then try to get back to sleep. Today's first wakeup was 5:11.
And that doesn't include when I am watching TV and fall asleep on the couch and wake up three hours later. UGH.
When I don't have to set the alarm on the weekend or on holidays, I still tend to wake up pretty much around the time I normally wake up during the week. Even if I don't go to bed until late. These days, sleeping in, if I'm VERY lucky, is 8am but that's usually after waking up at least a couple of times.
I was always a night person. In school I would study into the early morning hours...usually until 1 or 2 a.m. I enjoyed those hours and was never sleepy. Even in my twenties and working a 9 to 5 schedule I would find myself still up well after midnight and doing chores; i.e., laundry, etc. I functioned on 4 or 5 hours of sleep. Now that I am in my 70's the reverse has happened. I'm lucky if I can stay awake beyond 9 or 10 p.m. so recording movies and special programs are a must. Otherwise I would never know how that movie or program ended. If we are not at home, however, then my biological clock kicks in and helps me stay awake past the 10:00 hour. No matter when I hit the bedroom sheets...even if it's past midnight....my eyes open at 5:00 or 5:30 a.m. Then there is no going back to sleep. The positive part of all this reverse business is that I have "discovered" the dawning hours and loving it no matter the season of the year. My peace and quiet and alone time is between 5 and 7 a.m. Out comes the Farberware coffee pot (yes I still perk my coffee) and whatever book I am reading. If it's agreeable weather I head for our little private courtyard and "sip and read". The birds are usually singing and the sun is starting to rise. During the winter season I stay inside and sit in front of the fireplace. After 7 a.m. the day begins and I'm at my desk doing bills, paperwork, answering emails, reading the Jungle Red Writers blog...:) or on Facebook and enjoying a second cup of coffee. But between 5 and 7 a.m., especially during stressful times, those hours are very precious to me; they are my "namaste".
ReplyDeleteI drag my body out of bed at 7 because I do my best creative work in a half-stupor before the caffeine kicks in.
ReplyDeleteI spent many, many years having to be out of bed 5:30 am ( either to go to work or look after children who would not sleep past that time). Since retiring 16 years ago and no longer having a set schedule my alarm is set only occasionally when I have an early appointment. I like to be up between 8-9 am .
ReplyDeleteDianne Mahoney
Always a lark…even as a teen.Long after those years were over, Mother told of other mothers complaining of kids who slept (would have slept) all day and how every morning was a battle. And how grateful she was that waking up was not one of our teen battles! Even in college, bed by 10 up at 6…hated that the dining room did not open until 9 on weekends. (I went to college in the ancient of days, before in room microwaves and fridges.) Elisabeth
ReplyDeleteLifelong quasi-owl here! I was forced to get up early for a job a few years ago but found it so miserable I worked toward becoming self employed. I am a much happier person when I am able to wake up naturally around 7:30 am. But my brain doesn’t naturally wake up until 10 so I spend my mornings feeding the dog and birds and watering the garden, maybe a little yoga too. My work day begins around 10. The sound of an alarm gives me palpitations.
ReplyDeleteMe, too! I absolutely despise having to use an alarm!
DeleteMy dear mother, librarian and Anglophile, recited that poem of Browning's. Thanks for reminding me of it. I also love Eleanor Farjeon's poem/hymn "Morning Has Broken," which Cat Stevens made famous; we sang it at my father's funeral. However, compared to many of you, I'm NOT a morning person. When I was in graduate school and lived alone, I often got up at 6 a.m. to work and usually went to sleep at 11 p.m. Then, like Debs, I married a night owl. I adapted my rhythm so Peter and I can watch an hour of TV together from 10 to 11 p.m. My pattern now, when it works (!), is to go to sleep at midnight and sleep until 7 a.m. on weekdays, 8 a.m. on Saturdays, and 8:30 a.m. on Sundays. Peter never goes to bed before 1 a.m., and it's often later.
ReplyDeleteKim, any post that mentions, a "dear mother, librarian and Anglophile" and Eleanor Farjeon brings a huge smile to my face. I had the first and am a big fan of the second. Mom brought us Eleanor (and her brother Herbert's) book Kings and Queens when we were little and we memorized many of the poems.
DeleteThat’s our timing, too!
DeleteYes, Rick is usually up until about 2, sometimes 3 if he's in the midst of a computer project.
DeleteIt's 5:19 am here and I've had first breakfast and am starting my first cup of tea. Even if I go to bed horribly late (like 10) I still wake up at 5, or heaven forbid, 4:30. Early mornings are my favorite time of day. I love the in-between time of the dawn light when all things are possible. I'm grateful for this new day.
ReplyDeleteLovely thoughts, Gillian. Thank you. Elisabeth
DeleteYes, lovely, Gillian. You almost make me wish I was a lark:-)
DeleteIn bed 10-11 p.m. most nights and read for a while before the lights go out. Awake by 5:30-6, but pretend I'm still asleep and drift along until 7-ish. If I've had a sleepless night, I might stay in bed until 9 if my nephew feeds all the critters. Really hate getting up to an alarm, mostly now for early appointments and two days/week for work (at least the alarm is set for 7:30). (flora)
ReplyDeleteI just wish I could sleep all through the night! Even waking up now and then to get a drink of water and use the bathroom, are fine when I can get right back to sleep. But so often I can't. I try to shut down around 10, very sleepy, but still cannot get to sleep. Or I'll fall right to sleep and then wake up wide awake 20 minutes later. After that it is very hard to go back to sleep. I like seeing the early morning light but I like sleeping more! Which is why I use a sleep mask. Now if I could just get the cats to leave me alone until I am ready!
ReplyDeleteI don't know how we are so lucky that neither cats nor dogs nag us to get up--at least not until 9 or so but I'm always up by then.
DeleteI too am a lark. I love the early morning hours, letting the dogs out and making coffee in the quiet. In fact, now that most of my cohort is retired I am eager to have our book group think about switching to an afternoon meeting time, as I increasingly LOATHE going out at night. No matter when I go to bed (after midnight on book group nights) I will be up by 5. Since I am on meds that have me up a few times in the interim, this does not feel like enough sleep and sadly I cannot nap. (Selden)
ReplyDeleteI am a lark, most of the time. If we attend an event that goes until midnight or the wee hours, I can do that and sometimes sleep later but it's not the norm.
ReplyDeleteI love the morning. I actually love the night, too, but I rarely go outside in the evening any more because...no dog. I do love to see the moon and the stars.
I agree with Lucy about awakening with the light and it is one of the reasons that I love winter in Connecticut!
Lark here! Usually in bed by 9:00 up around 5:00 am sometimes earlier. I get up and spend about a hour or so on the computer and then will go back to bed to read the paper. Then downstairs to get breakfast for hubby. Years ago I used to leave the house around 6:00 to go to the pool to swim laps before going to work. Those days have dwindled considerably!
ReplyDeleteI used to be a total night owl, but now I'm somewhere in between. When The Hubby gets up around 5:30, I might blink, but I go back to sleep. Koda wanders in around 6:30. I'm up anywhere between then and 7, no alarm needed. It works well. I can feed Koda breakfast, get my workout in, check Facebook, and then get to work.
ReplyDeleteI am rarely awake after 10:30. Usually bed by 9:30, read for 30 minutes, turn out the light, and that's all, folks.
For most of my working years, my morning started at 5:30 am. When my husband and I retired, we stopped setting an alarm. We now get up about 7:30 am, though in all honesty if it weren't for his preference, I'd probably get up about a half hour earlier. That last half hour is usually more wakeful than sleeping for me. Fortunately I'm one who enjoys a good cuddle, so I don't complain much.
ReplyDeleteWe have a skylight in our bedroom, and I am completely dependent upon a good padded blindfold to make sleeping that late possible in the summer. I pull it out from under the pillow the first time I wake up and see the beginnings of dawn, and it makes a huge difference.
Farm kid here - grew up wishing I was a lark but I was and am an owl. My alarms (yes, can and have sept through) and I have a history of enmity and sleeping later was the first joy of retirement.
ReplyDeleteNight owl by temperament, lark by habit. Left to my own devices, my day would start at noon and end at 4 AM. I've been that way all my life. My mom told me that the nurses were thrilled when I left the hospital. I slept all day and was awake (and kept the nursery awake) all night. When I started working, roads were so congested that I switched my time to arrive in the office at 5:30AM with a departure time of 2:30. These days I tend to wake with the sunlight and start the day. As for setting an alarm. Don't own one, but I have heard a rumor the cell phone may harbor one.
ReplyDeleteI like Alexa's alarm, Kait, when I need one: you can program her to gently chime at an increasingly loud tone. I don't use an alarm if I don't have a morning app't to make, though. Going alarm-less is one of life's great pleasures.
DeleteMy phone app plays very gentle music. It's really not bad at all.
DeleteI used to get up around 5:30 for work, but I've been retired for 9 years now. Still, I usually get up around 6:00 a.m. because that's when my body wakes me up. Failing that, my cat, Sasha, will let me know that it's time to feed her. I love my morning routine. After feeding said cat, I get some water and make my way to my desktop computer, where I check email, enter sweepstakes, look at book blogs (Lesa's Book Critiques and this one) and TVline.com, and check the weather forecast. Then it's Zumba time--only 15-20 minutes. Next I settle down for some reading until it's time for a shower, breakfast, and, weather permitting a walk around the neighborhood or--on Thursdays--with a walking group. Finally, I'm ready for the day! I love my routine and agree to modify it only under duress (or necessity)!
ReplyDeleteMargie, that sounds like a great morning routine! Mental stimulation, exercise, outdoor time, community - you've got it all!
DeleteWhen working I was forced to be a lark in order to beat everyone to the office so I could get a ton of work done before the others arrived to disrupt my day. At heart, I am not a morning person, but I've become something of a lark/owl combo. Maybe a lowl? Unless I am ill, I am awake around 7 am, not necessarily fully functional, but aware that I have to move my body out of the bed. I am probably at my best between 10a and 3p. Sadly, sleep tends to elude me until midnight or later. Thankfully, there are books to fill the gaps until I can ease into sleep. They also help me ease into the day as well. -- Victoria
ReplyDeleteVictoria, I've read that early humans may have had a split sleep pattern; going to 'bed' at sunset, waking in the wee hours for some time together, and then falling asleep again until daylight. If so, it would explain why so many of us have problems with an 11pm-7am schedule!
DeleteA howl, Victoria! I love that!
DeleteJulia, is that what they called the Second Sleep? I wonder as climate change gives us hotter weather if we might not find ourselves going back to the second sleep pattern. It will be interesting to see.
DeleteWhooo-ooo, whOOOo!!! Definitely a night owl, most of my life. I have always had a hard time settling down to sleep, even as a child. My mom, who was probably correct, used to say I was afraid I'd miss something. But another issue is that I don't sleep long when I do finally get to that state. If I went to bed at 10, I'd be up and wandering around at 3-4 AM, and that's not at all attractive to me. I'd rather conk out at 1 AM and get up at 6:30 or 7.
ReplyDeleteMy husband, bless him, has always gotten up early--animals do, so wildlife photographers have to, as well. When the kids were riding buses to school they got picked up at the end of our long, dark driveway, and on a scary and busy road. Someone needed to wait with them, or at least watch to see that they got safely on the bus. Steve would drive them out to the road, and sit with them in a heated car, often listening to and discussing their favorite music. All while I slept in, finishing my usually abbreviated night's sleep. During those child-rearing years (35 in my case, thanks to a 17-year span in kids) I sorely needed those quiet night-time hours to recharge, too.
Amen to recharging, Karen! It worked out well as a parenting team to have one night owl and one lark; Ross was responsible for early-morning child transportation, and I did all the nighttime pick ups.
DeleteBy choice I am a night owl, by necessity I have to get up early to be at work at nine most days. The one day I have to work until 9 I try to sleep a little later.
ReplyDeleteWhen I’m up early I stay in bed for a few minutes and listen to the radio for the temperature and weather forecast for the day.
I usually don’t go to bed before 1:30 or 2:00, but I am trying to go to sleep earlier, perhaps 1:00. The past few months I was spoiled by having a more flexible time to get up but now that I’m back to my regular work schedule my owl ways are not compatible with the amount of sleep I need.
If I go too early I also wake up too early, around 6 or 6:30 and make an effort to go back to sleep, sometimes successfully other times not.
I inherited the night gene from my mother’s side of the family, my father was a lark, 10:30 was a late night for him.
Reading is my nighttime activity. I used to listen to an overnight radio talk show.. Since the station has changed their programming to repetitive news, I no longer actively listen to it.
Anon, I had to change my in-bed, relaxing-to-fall-asleep activity from reading to doing a crossword puzzle. I found if I liked what I was reading, I'd keep going, and going, and going, and if it was dull enough for me to fall asleep to, I'd reach for a different book!
DeleteOh, my Julia. Crossword puzzles are my bete noir… I HAVE TO SOLVE! Get too frustrated to sleep, regardless of how tired I am. Puzzles require output. And output keeps me awake. Elisabeth
DeleteI use audio books now, and set a time for 30 minutes. I'm almost always asleep by time the timer shuts the book off.
DeleteI'm an early bird. In bed reading by 10 p.m. and waking up at 6 a..m. in the mornings. Sometimes I wake up at the crack of the dawn, which is not always a good thing if I do not have enough sleep. When I was a child, it was hard for me to settle down and go to sleep because I did not want to miss anything then I wanted to sleep in, which was not always possible. If it was a school day, then I had to get up early to go to school.
ReplyDeleteEarly Bird, I think all kids are like that - don't want to go to bed for fear of missing out, don't want to get up because they're tired as a result!
DeleteI am definitely a night owl. My husband is still working so he dictates when the TV gets turned off, around 10. He’s in bed by 10:30 and usually straight to sleep. I, however, “have to” stay up. So I am either still up, settling the house to bed (these days, closing windows and turning off fans, straightening the kitchen, etc.) or in bed, reading on my Kindle (with the black background so it doesn’t wake up my brain with the blue light or whatever). I’m usually reading until after midnight. My husband can’t sleep in the bed past 6:00 a.m. so goes to whichever couch the dog is on and falls asleep there until the dog wakes him for a walk. Ideally, I sleep through all of that. I’m finding if I don’t sleep until 9:00, I need a nap during the day! — Pat S
DeleteSo true, Julia - I remember wanting desperately to stay up until midnight on a New Year's Eve... now it holds no allure. I just returned from a trip to teach at a writing conference at Book Passage near San Francisco and the time change was brutal - worse I think going that way if you're a lark. Ready for shut eye at 6 PST!
ReplyDeleteI'm a night owl. I am frustrated on Saturdays (my only day to sleep in as late as I want) when I wake up around when I set my alarm anyway. And one of the things I'm dreading about having to go back to the office in six weeks on a hybrid schedule is having to set my alarm in time to get up and make it to the office on time. I'm so spoiled by rolling out of bed and logging into my computer.
ReplyDeleteI hate too early in the morning and that means any time before 7:30. I can eyeball the light on the walls and tell the time all year around – now the paint colour is discernable by 5:15. Once up, I need a shower and then food. Don’t talk to me before I am fed. Coffee until 10 and then on to something. Noon for lunch and 6 at the latest for supper. The best nap is the hour after supper – always play a nature film or something on the telly - David Attenborough talks well to himself…
ReplyDeleteWe have 9 cats. None of them get me up – ever! The rooster suggests everyone should do something about 1am winter and summer, so I block him out.
I vote for daylight Savings all year long – why waste good light on 4am? I have no cows that need to be milked.
Enough jobs with rotating shifts meant that I can now eat at any time, and also fall asleep at any time. I don't remember the last time that I had 8 hours of continuous sleep. It's all good. Sometimes 4 AM dawns and sometime late night comet showers.
ReplyDeleteHoo-hoo-hooooo! That's my natural state, the wise(?) old owl. My normal routine will shock some of you. 2 or 3 in the morning is when I usually give it up to sleep, and I very often don't get up until 11. I mean, who cares? What does it matter if I don't have an appointment or other reason to be up? But, these days I'm often in the bed by 11ish. For some reason, my bed has been my safe space from grief since Kevin passed. I play my word game on my phone and read some odds and ends, extending the time to late often because it feels good to have my brain turned off and nobody bothering me. And, as those of you who have grieved deeply before know, sleep is a rest from the pain you feel when awake. I am supposed to be taking a sleeping pill, but I don't like them. Oh, they work fine, but I took one last night at midnight and slept until almost one today. Even I don't like sleeping that late. I took one last night because even with liking to stay up late, I haven't been able to get to sleep or have a restful sleep lately. I'll try taking a pill earlier tonight. Husband is the exact opposite of me, of course. He likes to be in be between 9 and 9:30 (10 is getting really late for him), and he gets up somewhere around 5:30. This is another reason we sleep in different bedrooms and I sleep with my door shut. Now, I have to admit that I love the way the early morning feels, so fresh and uncrowded by people, but at this time in life, I don't think I can change. Of course, like Julia, I spent about 30 years or so getting up early, usually no later than 5:30, and going to school, working, taking children to school, getting children up to drive themselves to school, and still working some. And, really, who wants to get up and see the snail on the thorn?
ReplyDeleteI agree with with Julia. Spent years getting up at 6am, for work and esp for kids(now 42,40,32).My husband is an early riser & doesn't sleep more than 6 hours.I need 8-9 hours! Through our 43 year marriage, I have adjusted my sleep schedule around everyone else's.(US Coast Guard, Nursing school, all 3 shifts as RN for example). I started sleeping later when I got the chance.I love staying up late ! It's 11:30 after the news, then I read in bed. I also love waking up, knowing I CAN go back to sleep, and I do. Lately I sleep in till 9:30 or so.Ahhh.
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