Monday, March 10, 2025

Remodeling Envy

JULIA SPENCER-FLEMING: Reds, I’ve got remodel envy. Now, I’m a woman who loves the so-called shelter magazines. I subscribe to HGTV Magazine and House Beautiful. I follow interior designers in Insta and bookmark pages for the Kips Bay Showhouse and the One Room Challenge. But, you know, in real life, everything in my house has been more or less the same for many, many years, and the same can be said for most of my friends.


 But two years ago, my sister redid her kitchen. 


It was the real thing - everything old went, including an oddly placed wall that squeezed everyone entering the space. She had the whole, newly opened living room-dining room area painted and new flooring laind throughout the first floor.


And her kitchen! Not fancy by the standards of those show houses and magazines, but to me, cooking all these years in my 1930-something layout, it’s spectacular. Pristine cabinets and drawers with soft-closing hinges. New stainless steel everything. A beautiful tile backsplash over cool marble countertops. A farmhouse sink deep enough to immerse a stock pot in and sweet touches like adjustable lighting and a beverage fridge right by the french doors to the deck. 


Now all I can think of is how I could maximize my work areas (Barb gained at least twice as much counter space) and make my storage so much more efficient. (It might help to get rid of two completely dead corner cupboards.)


How about you, Reds? Have you ever had remodel envy? What did you do about it?


RHYS BOWEN: I’ve just been reading about Debs’ upgrading of her pantry space. It looks brilliant. I have to say that I like my kitchen the way it is.  It has a walk in pantry, a nice breakfast area and a balcony with a view to the hills opposite. No complaints there although we do need a new stove but can’t make the effort to choose one. Instead we have to light one of the burners by turning the knob and blowing on it.  Our kids despair! 


However when we first saw our house in Arizona I drooled because everything had been remodeled, updated etc. A whole house all shiny and new. Lovely new kitchen with plenty of space. Gorgeous shower. White quartz counters everywhere–so easy to clean, and that hard faux wood floor that can be mopped in seconds. And the best thing about it–no forty year’s worth of clutter!


HALLIE EPHRON: I do, I do, alas I do have remodel envy. My daughter is an architect and she has endlessly pitched ideas for moving this wall and taking out that one and opening up the kitchen/dining room and I can see it all. We *did* redo our kitchen back in 1980 or so but the idea of “opening things up” and wasn’t yet on the horizon.

Now however, whenever I experience a bit of “remodel envy,” my next thought is: let the next owner do it.  Because how do you even live through a remodel??


LUCY BURDETTE: I do love my kitchen in Connecticut with all my heart. The pantry is a showstopper with lots of shelves and drawers and space on the floor for pots too big to fit in the main kitchen. My favorite part is the counter, made of old chestnut from someone’s barn and refinished with marine varnish. We were lucky to have built this house 25 years ago so it’s laid out exactly as I wanted it. We got a good chuckle out of my son-in-law remarking that it seemed “dated.” I will replace appliances that die (the fridge is hanging on by a thread), but no remodels for me!


HANK PHILLIPPI RYAN: Oh, gosh, I love our house. It has its quirks, definitely, and I daydream about how I could rearrange the breakfast/sunroom by blowing out the outside walls and make a screened-in porch sort of amidst the garden, but I'm never gonna do it and it would cost fifty billion dollars anyway.

 

Our home is from 1894, and we did a little renovating 20 or so years ago, but I kept every bit of original molding and decoration and  woodwork. I DID make a sewing room (yes there was a sewing room!) into a pantry, and a SUPERsmall bedroom on the 2nd floor into a closet for me (!!) but it’s really pretty original otherwise. Although–do NOT talk about the basement. There are nooks and crannies  in there (like a coal chute)  that I would not even dare go near.


DEBORAH CROMBIE:  We did the whole gutting/remodel thing back in 2007. We bought our circa 1905 house from house flippers in 1995, and the job they had done on the kitchen was far from satisfactory (although probably an improvement over the original!) so we moved windows and doors and put in all new cabinets, an island, and appliances. But we had remodel horror stories, for sure! 

 

The contractors started in January, then once they’d torn everything out, announced that they couldn’t go any further until our foundation was leveled. Then it started to rain and didn’t stop for weeks and weeks, so no work progressed. (The foundation leveling has its own horror stories!) We lived with a toaster oven and an old microwave in our dining room, washing dishes in the downstairs bathtub, for about three months.


The end result was fabulous, however, fit for a House and Garden spread, and we have never regretted it for a minute. 


JENN McKINLAY: I remodeled my kitchen myself so no envy here. It’s a 1959 ranch and I redid all the cupboards–scraping, sanding, refinishing inside and out, and new hardware. I did have to buy some new cupboards (bare wood and pre-made) to replace cupboards that weren’t able to be refinished. The fit was so tight, I had to wax the bottom of the cupboard and the slab floor and use my feet to shove it in place under my new granite counter. 

 

I did hire someone to put in granite counters and rewire the kitchen for the new steel appliances. But I put in my over the sink light and ripped out the vent and cupboards over the stove by myself. The plan is to put a skylight there (yes, I will hire someone) but I haven’t gotten to it yet because, alas, I am a seventy percenter and only get things about that far done and another project distracts me. LOL.

 

JULIA: How about you, dear readers? Have you tackled remodeling? And what, in your house, are you dreaming of changing? 


49 comments:

  1. I always grumble that there aren't enough closets [or bookshelves . . . in my dream house we'd have a library room] . . .
    We've done a bit of remodeling in each house we lived in, but nothing huge like tearing out and redoing the kitchen . . . we did add cabinets and counters in the California kitchen; we closed in an unused patio to make a much-loved sunroom in the Alabama house. Here we added solar panels and a sunroom [that made the house plants happy!] . . . .

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  2. Julia, you've hit upon a topic that makes me weep. We built our little (600 sq. ft.) log cabin in 1982 and still have the original (builder grade) kitchen. The appliances have been replaced, but I dream of new cabinets, new countertops, and a new farmer sink. My mom left me enough money to do all that when she passed away, but I took pity on my husband and instead used it to build his dream garage. The truth is, while yes, the cost is an issue, the thought of the mess keeps me from doing more than dreaming. I mean, seriously, where are we going to go to hide from it in a 600 square foot house????

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    1. Could you hide in your husband’s dream garage? Is your log cabin your primary residence? If so, how do you keep from killing each other?! — Pat S

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    2. Yes, it's our only residence. Surprisingly, we still like each other after all these years, although he does have that garage (and a workshop) to retreat to when there's too much togetherness.

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  3. I have survived washing dishes in the bathtub three times so far. The latest two involved Hugh gutting and remaking our two antique homes around us, one in Ipswich (1718!) and the other here in Amesbury, built in 1890. I'm all done with drywall dust in my cereal, thank you very much. But I got two nearly perfect kitchens, this one a bit bigger than Ipswich.

    The only thing I didn't get was a vertical cookie-sheet cabinet, sigh, but I have a reasonable workaround. The under-counter corner cabinet a 180-degree kind of lazy susan, perfect for every cooking pot with its lid on, and the door is center-hinged. All the drawers are whisper-shut. The space fills with sun and has room for two sons to join me cooking when they visit. The cabinets are white and the granite is dark, with white and black backsplash, and I pop it up with colorful utensil holders, a red electric tea kettle, and a blue Kitchenaid stand mixer. The island was custom made and is topped with wide antique boards from our Ipswich house! I love the whole thing.

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    1. Edith - I think I remember pictures from that kitchen island install; could that be?

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  4. We bought our 1955 split level in 1984. Jonathan was 2. In 1994, the year before his bar mitzvah, we had a kitchen remodel. The original kitchen had a stovetop with a griddle in the middle and one tiny wall oven that was too small to roast a turkey. I wanted a sink that was large enough to wash my turkey pan, and the largest gas oven I could find. The photo of the oven I chose showed a turkey and three other big pans inside. SOLD.!
    The cabinets aren't that good a quality. My contractor had someone he wanted to buy from and we did learn a lesson. A few years later, we replaced the counter with a beautiful slab of granite and a new, bigger sink with a better faucet. My kitchen is very small, but I can cook in it. Most of my counter top appliances live in the basement.

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  5. Kitchen remodeling is chaos: fridge and microwave in the dining room, paper plates, the granite countertops that had to wait until the cabinets were leveled. Bathrooms aren't much better: one working toilet, shower, and sink, the location of which changes daily. I've done it all, several times. Best advice? Live and work in a kitchen for several years, taking notes all the while. Deep drawers for both bathroom vanities and kitchens are key. Walk-in pantries are a delight, until the field mice discover it. I keep anything not in a bottle or tin can in large plastic tubs with sealed lids.

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  6. Nope, no reno envy or interest. As a lifelong renter, I just use things as they are. No grumbling, no complaining.

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  7. We lived in this 1932 house while all the renos were being done: slept on a mattress in the living, next to the fridge, cooked downstairs on a camping stove...never again! When we had the bathroom redone, we stayed at the cottage coming home only for a weekend to do necessary painting. No matter how you work around the upheaval and the chaos, it's mayhem until that last speck of dust is vacuumed up. And that can take a long time...Therefore, I'm happy to live with things as they are today, after 24 years here, though the bathroom is ready for a refresh; it will have to wait until we find the courage for the undertaking.

    Jenn - you get my Superwoman award for being a DIYer on the reno front. SO impressive!

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    1. I agree - for Jenn to take on a major reno in her kitchen like she described is amazing. That takes a lot hard work and determination.

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    2. Jenn and Selden could team up to be our DIY advisers!

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  8. Jenn; I second Amanda's comment re: your DIY skills. If you ever tire of writing, you can hire out. Think of how many fans would love to have you in their kitchen.

    When I was married, we moved every 2 - 3 years. Projects that needed to be fixed were delayed often because who would do that to toddlers. Still it was frustrating to see new carpet replace old dog scented rugs as I was packing for the next location. Now on Nome St, we never had the self confidence or the savings to upgrade; until now. We are starting small, adding glass door knobs to
    folding doors, and press on wall paper (Morris pattern) in the computer room. I have enough ceramic tile to install a improved entryway. This will be the next project after the door knob project introduces us to the world of screw drivers.

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  9. We built this house in 2004 – Started from scratch Jan 1, in the winter. Moved in in May. Sort-of finished if you count plastic over pink insulation on the walls as finished… Our previous record was to move about every 5 years – so this house to us is ancient.
    My husband is a carpenter who does all other things as well, except paint – I won’t let him. He squeezes the roller so dry trying to ‘save’ on paint, that it never covers well! Main floor is painted in rich colours – living room is ruby red and gold, open-to and adjacent dining room is gold and navy, which runs through to the kitchen. Sometimes I think of repainting but I like the colours and have no reason to sit in a neutral palate house – so no to that. Flooring in this area except the kitchen is chip board. He wants click-clack flooring (I hate the noise) and I want carpet. 23 year stand-off. It has a throw-rug.
    Second floor – same flooring issue. Bathroom is a beautiful walk-in shower – huge and safe from falling. However, the floor tiles in the shower have a crack in them – somewhere. To even find it would require that the entire place would need to be dismantled. Someone cut a very nice hole in the plaster 10 years ago to peek inside to see how bad it is. (It, at least, does not leak through into the living room ceiling.) View to test still exists – you don’t notice it after a while. Every winter he says “I should fix the shower this winter. There are nice plastic ones now…” (Nooooo! Oxymoron - plastic and nice.) The good news is that by spring he has still not made up his mind, and so it gets placed in hiatus until next winter.
    As I see it, the next reno to happen is when we need to move to live on only one floor and the sunroom becomes a bedroom, and I have no idea where we will shower as there is no place on this level to build one, or just leave it all as is to the kids in the will. They will be thrilled!

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    1. Margo, we had a hairline crack in our shower and finally due to some concerns about 'soft to the touch' drywall next to the shower stall, we had insurance adjuster check it out (it wasn't covered by them - sad). Long story but we had to demo the bathroom which turned to be fortunate because we had black mold. It was a lot of money to rebuilt the shower but at least I have peace of mind. It's amazing what even the littlest trickle of water can do as far as damage.

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  10. Many years ago we had just bought our first house, a brand new manufactured home (different somehow from a double-wide but I don't remember the difference now. Maybe it depended on who was talking about it.) Right away, I could see that the design as all wrong. The kitchen was very small which meant you could almost stand in one spot and reach everything you needed to. The living room was very long with a blank wall at the southern end, although there were plenty of windows along the side.

    I got out the floorplans and studied them. Then, on the plans, I took erased a wall in the kitchen so it was now opened up to the dark end of the living room. Then I drew in a large window for that sunny southern wall. It looked very good. My then husband's only comment was "you don't get a new house and then start changing it." I couldn't see why not, but there was a matter of money so that was that. But I knew it could work and be much better.

    As luck would have it, and I mean bad luck, a couple years later our house was on fire! Fortunately it was in the middle of the day. Eventually the firemen came and put the fire out (and reminded us that 'if it starts up again, don't hesitate to call us.") Everything from the ceilings up were a total loss and everything else was heavily smoke damaged.

    I don't know what you might have done, but when we talked to the contractors about all the repairs, I took my chance and brought out the floor plans. They agreed that that could work and because they would already be on the premises it wouldn't cost a whole lot extra. Of course it took way longer than we expected since unbeknown to us the contractors also drove school bus, so they work day with us was much shorter. Still, it turned out beautifully.

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  11. 03/10/2025
    From Celia: The kitchen of my dreams? Well not the current one though a friend was extolling its virtues to a group of us lunching. I was having difficulty recognizing her description as my kitchen. I seem to be doomed to small kitchens. The one person only on the barge, my first London accommodation. Four of us shared that space for meals and if someone didn’t tidy up their mess the rest of us suffered. The two person space in our NYC studio apartment. Well at least the fridge was the proper size. Yet another galley kitchen in my Chappaqua house. I still think insisting on installing a dishwasher saved our marriage, together with a new gas stove with two ovens. I love a stove with two ovens, plus a butchers block counter which was wonderful but has gone out of style.
    Now the cottage in Maine. Yes, you guessed another galley kitchen with no gas but I have learned to love my ceramic top stove and yes, it has two ovens. But the best feature is the sink window overlooking the lake, and the deck so I can carry on chatting with guests while I prep.
    But casting back to childhood and my grandparents kitchen. A large two room space with no counters. Really! I remember a double sink with draining boards and the gas stove with one oven opposite. Tall glass fronted cabinets full of beautiful china and glass, all hand washed as there was no dishwasher even in the ’50’s. Then through the arch to a space which led into the door yard and a large kitchen table. I can only think. That all the food prep must have been done by Edith, the cook, on that table. What a lot of steps she garnered. Table to stove to table to sink to pantry, another separate room, and on and on. Four meals a day which were delicious. When my grandfather finally sold the property for development before leaving for the beach we were so sad. Greenwood House held generations of memories. However the house got the last word by burning down before the wreaking ball arrived. I have not and cannot revisit the site. So many memories.

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    1. What wonderful description, Celia. I'm so sorry it burned.

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  12. We did a major remodel in 1995-96 and were relatively happy with it. Our contractor was also a licensed architect and he lived two doors away. But, there were a number of things I'd do differently today. Over the years we've upgraded the house with the help of a woman who helped with designing a fireplace, kitchen back splash etc. If I had to do things again - I'd have started with her!
    I think the biggest mistake I see on the HGTV type shows is they all use a lot of the same color palate and tile patterns, floor patterned tiles, counter top materials, etc that influence people home designs. Then later they become outdated.There are certain styles that, in my opinion, are timeless like subway tiles, hardwood floors, french doors.
    My favorite TV remodeling show is This Old House. The quality of their work, and the fact that they explain in detail how and why certain things are done a certain way.

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    1. Agreed! Some things are very dated best to dress the house in timelessness, IMHO.

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    2. Love This Old House! I think watching it made me fall in love with old houses.

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    3. With all of the chemicals related to carpeting and whatever you put under them, what we did was to put hardwood floors everywhere except the front hall (marble), laundry/mud room (tile), 2nd floor guest bath (tile), and master bath (marble). Alicia Kullas

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    I finally got the solid stone (white quartz) countertops I've wanted for twenty years in the kitchen at The Cottage. The place came with professional-grade appliances. We thought about replacing the premade cabinets, but due to cost decided to refresh them with a coat of paint and mushroom-button hardware (they didn't have hardware and had been painted with flat paint).

    As I type this, a crew is removing the faux brick and putting a dry stacked-stone facade on the cinderblock foundation.

    Tonight we are talking to someone about our true dream project: redoing the bathroom to put in a walk-in shower. We shall see.

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    1. That's on our to-do list, too, Liz, with three roll top tubs in the house and no walk in shower...

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    2. Liz: might I also suggest that you ask about a seat / bench in your walk in shower. We have one and as we age, it will really come in handy not to mention making it easier to shave my legs! Alicia Kullas

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    3. Well, we pulled the trigger on a (luxury) walk-in shower. The guy said not to waste our money on the full bathroom because what we really needed him for is the shower. I'm having a little shock at the money that'll be rolling out between now and the end of April, but hey. The kids are gone and The Hubby is retired, so isn't it time I spend a little on myself?

      And yes, Alicia. A shower bench is a must!

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  14. Happy belated birthday to Hallie! I was preparing for a dinner party all day yesterday, so didn't get back to the blog until now.

    We lived in our old, 1939 house for 14 years before we did anything about the tiny, dark kitchen with 24" of usable counter space (it was designed for servants!). I was finally able to convince my husband we needed to add on, so I used my kitchen designer skills to plan an addition that added about 125% more space, plus lovely big windows overlooking the garden that filled the room with light, along with a wonderful adjoining sunporch. Since the carpenters gutted the entire room, and blew out the back wall, we spent five months with a microwave in the dining room, and heavy plastic curtains over the doors to the rest of the house. The carpenters were awesome, and they kept the fridge plugged in for us (moving it as needed). They also kept the sink functioning for most of the time. It was so worth it, because we got to enjoy that beautiful space that became the hub of our family life for 20 years.

    The kitchen I designed for this house is even better, and last night as I was preparing, serving, and entertaining I was so grateful for having this arrangement, with an island that seats six. Until we remodeled the old kitchen I pretty much hated to cook; it makes such a difference to have a pleasant, organized workspace, and to be able to be a part of the party while cooking. It was a priority when we were building, because we "entertain" a lot. Steve much prefers having friends and family here to dining out, and I've come to prefer it, as well.

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  15. We built a new house about five years ago and there are always a few things you’d change in hindsight, but one of the keepers was giving up a small bedroom to make a walk-in pantry with an extra freezer, outlets, counter space and shelving. Soooo worth it.

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    1. Brilliant. I refuse to rip out my pantry to accommodate an open floor plan. I'd rather have the pantry!

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    2. Include me on team pantry too!

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  16. Thanks for this fun post, Reds! I love remodeling shows and before/after pics . . . it's have the problem I have when I go over to social media to do something bookish and then get sucked into the vortex of posts like that. I'm toying with the idea of sharing my upcoming kitchen remodel with my bookish audience this spring... seems like even though it is not my main topic, people might enjoy it. Oh, and when Hank mentioned the coal chute in her basement, all I could think of was that scene from the movie Signs ... do you all know the one? ... when the aliens reach in via the coal chute? Yikes!

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  17. Family friends lived in one room of their house while their house was being remodeled!!! I cannot imagine living in a house while it was being remodeled!

    My childhood home has been bought and sold over the years. Actually it was the same owner who bought and sold it to his wife then his wife "sold" it back to him. Sounds very complicated, They remodeled the beautiful 1939 two story house that was built by a Swedish sailor for his wife just before the Second World War.

    The Remodel was NOT an improvement in my opinion. They removed the greenhouse. They did keep the birdbath but there is NO garden anymore. They added a fire pit. They changed the bathrooms so now it is Only showers. The new version looks very fancy and IMHO not cozy nor hygge.

    Happy where I live and no need for remodeling. Just need to DECLUTTER and make space. We may change our mind about minor remodeling later.

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  18. Happy Belated birthday to Hallie!

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  19. We did our recent remodel in a way that is a bit (!) more expensive than most people can do: we lived in our other house while the construction was happening. We had bought a second house on the same street (with my inheritance from my parents ) for a rental property. When the time came to renovate our original house, we stayed in the rental. We took out walls to open up the living room, kitchen and family rooms. The heating unit went into the attic and I got a smallish walk-in pantry. By taking out the wall from the previous galley kitchen, we were able to put in a nice island. Most of the renovation centered around the public area of the house, but the master bedroom and bathroom also were redone and look so much better! — Pat S

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  20. I've been eyeing the one day bathtub to shower replacements. After I finish our taxes I may get a quote to see if it is doable. Our 1915 house has a full bathroom on the first floor, added along with my office/library and upstairs enclosed sun porch off the main bedroom. The tub was updated at some point but is too yucky to use. The tile surrounding it is peach colored. There is a window in that wall over the tub, and the wallpaper is peeling, as is the ceiling. I'd love to rip out the tub and put in a walk-in shower. The window can stay, but maybe with glass block. This job would strictly be rip out the tub, put in the shower enclosure with new plumbing. The rest of the remodel can wait. Anyone have experience with this one day phenomenon?

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    1. My husband built houses for years and based on his experience, those glass blocks are a nightmare and also will really date your home. Maybe chat with some local builders in your area to get some other ideas on what to do with that window. Alicia Kullas

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  21. Oh, yes, my bathroom is next! I've already found the shower liner - a veiny marble slab. Very exciting but annoying because I can't lift it myself. LOL.

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  22. I DID finally buy a new shower curtain for my bathroom, though. And because of that, the curtains weren't right, so I had to get new curtains. ANd now I am wondering about the rug...

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  23. Echoing others on admiration for Jenn's handy skills!

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  24. I have serious remodel envy. However I live in an apartment. But I can paint so I’m deciding on colors and then I’m going to go for it. Although that does mean moving all the furniture. Good exercise. 😊

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  25. I was thinking that I had a lot of house touch-ups done in 2015, but could it really have been ten years ago. Maybe it was two or three years later. At that time, the major renovation was tearing everything out of the main bathroom and making it all new. I really am please (I did most of the planning) except for one thing. I wish I'd had a large shower put in instead of a tub and shower combo. I put new carpets in the bedrooms and laminate throughout the rest of the house, except the kitchen, which is tile. I had all the rooms painted, too and got some new furniture. But, as they say, you never get through improving your house. I need to do a kitchen renovation, new front door (and exterior painting the alcove around the front door), finally make the back screened-in porch what I want it to be and put a deck attached to it. Oh, and I want a small private garden area where I can sit and be quiet and think of Kevin.

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  26. When we bought our apartment 33 years ago, it had been completely remodeled a few years earlier, and we liked it a lot. Within the next ten years, we got rid of all the wall-to-wall carpeting and put in wood floors. Ten years later, we tripled the size of the balcony, which became an additional room for six months of the year. Now, with the exception of the white-tiled kitchen floor, which we'll fix eventually, we love everything about our apartment. I'm so grateful that there's nothing to fix!

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  27. When we built our home about 30 years ago, we contracted with the Kennebec Cabinet Company in Bath, Maine to design and build our kitchen. They sat with us in the middle of the open space for the kitchen and discussed what we wanted given that we were building a Victorian. We have a house with old fashioned rooms including a formal dining room. They were so flexible. Although we could not afford the refrigerator meant for the kitchen, they drew up the plans anyway and told us to give them a call when we were ready. Sure enough, they built that alcove, shipped it to us, and a local finish carpenter installed it for us. Perfect! My issue right now is that even with two pantries, I still need to weed out what I don’t use very often and move those items to storage in the cellar! No reno work for us! Alicia Kullas

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