RHYS BOWEN: I realize I am hosting what could be a really stressful week: the Georgia election tomorrow, and the ratification (or not) of the Electoral College votes on Wednesday. These are enough to turn anyone to drink! So I’m going to make sure all my posts are sweet, calm and harmless.
At least we are in a new year. We made it through 2020 without being attacked by Murder Hornets or being struck by a passing meteorite. It is now behind us. We can look forward to a time beyond Covid, a time of vaccines and future hugs, travel and dining out again.
But I am trying hard to be positive this week so I’ve been thinking what good things might have happened during the pandemic. Here is my list of FIVE GOOD THINGS THAT HAPPENED DURING COVID. I know other people have become experts in sourdough bread, have reorganized their closets, purged their clothing wardrobes. I have not.
But I have discovered the joys of working in bed. How sinful is that? My son made me this brilliant lap desk for Christmas. In fact he made one for every member of the family. I can’t really write propped up on pillows but I can go through my email and social media.
Second good thing: My hips were getting sore from sitting and writing so I found a seat cushion that is like part of an exercise ball. It’s wonderful because you can’t sit in one position, you have to continually readjust yourself. This brings me to the bigger category: you can find anything you need on Amazon. I craved Wheatabix cereal that can no longer be found in the US. Lo and behold I can get it from Amazon, delivered the next day. Brilliant!
Third Good thing: We walk twice a day. We are lucky to live in an area of great natural beauty so I’m able to observe winter bird migrations and most recently a nightly murmuration of starlings. The fresh air, the sun shining on water and the glorious birds are enough to lift any spirit.
The fourth good thing is Zoom. Whoever invented it should get a medal or a knighthood! My family chats every Sunday evening. My Jungle Red Sisters and I Zoom regularly, so do other groups I belong to. I’ve listened to Zoom lectures, I’ve done Zoom bookstore presentations, I’ve even Zoomed with my choir. On Christmas Eve the family played charades on Zoom. So special.
And the fifth good thing? We can now go into a bank, wearing a mask and not get arrested. (Just kidding. The fifth good thing is that John and I haven't killed each other but actually enjoy our time together and manage to laugh daily.)
So let’s hear it from you: What are your silver linings in this time of dark clouds?
JULIA SPENCER-FLEMING: Rhys, I’m laughing at going into a bank and not getting arrested. I glimpsed myself the other day, masked (of course!) wearing sunglasses against the bright winter sunshine and a heavy knit cap against the cold. I looked like the Unabomber!
First good thing: I read a LOT more this year. After the first few months, when I couldn't concentrate on anything except horrible news stories, I found refuge in novels and nonfiction. Blurb requests plummeted (probably as a result of publishers holding back books til next year) and so I had very little I had to read. I’ve rediscovered the soothing joy of reading away the evening in the company of my daughter, which leads me to
The second good thing: Having the Maine Millennial live with me. She brought a cat, a dog, and her delightful personality when she moved back in, and she’s helped to keep me sane as we inch toward the one-year mark of the shut down.
The third good thing: realizing how much of my wardrobe I actually wear day-to-day, versus how much is taking up space for social occasions. I’ve been thinning things out, and the winnowing will continue.
The fourth good thing, and like unto the third: 100% casual wear, baby. I haven’t worn anything except sneakers, boots, slippers or flip-flops in a year. I like it.
Finally, the fifth good thing: appreciating the simple blessings we don’t often count. I was so grateful to have all my kids home for Christmas. We were all healthy, all employed, all earning enough to provide food and shelter and extras like presents and some small donations. I don’t usually think like that, and I hope I can hold on to that point of view in what will become the After Time.
LUCY BURDETTE: First good thing: Lottie puppy! Oh yes, she’s in a terribly annoying pesky chewing everything stage, but she makes us laugh and laugh.
Second, I agree with Zoom, so grateful to have been able to stay in close touch with our kids and grandkids and siblings and extended family and friends, including my beloved Reds!
Third good thing, yoga classes with my favorite two teachers online. In ordinary times, I wouldn’t be able to keep up with them while in Florida, but now I can do the classes from anywhere. And I swear I owe half of my sanity to Ali and Jo.
Fourth good thing, I’m so, so grateful to have a life partner whose company I enjoy, almost always. And the people I stay in touch with I’ve stayed in close touch with because nobody’s going anywhere!
Fifth good thing, I’ve let my gray hair grow out and after that first truly ugly couple of months, I’ve grown to love it. I will never go back to coloring every four or five weeks, but I wouldn’t have done this if I wasn’t afraid to go to the hair salon. I’d love to get some sparkly silver streaks put in to celebrate getting vaccinated though!
And ps Rhys, I almost always write in bed--it’s the best!
DEBORAH CROMBIE: Julia, I'm so glad you've had the Maine Millennial for company this year!
Which brings me to the first good thing, sharing a house with my hubby, who makes me laugh every day. We have not been tempted to strangle each other--at least not yet!
Second good thing, the dogs and the cats. They are endlessly entertaining (at least to us) and endlessly generous with their affection. We've especially enjoyed watching Lucy, the neighborhood formerly-outside cat, integrate herself into the household. The dogs are her slaves!
Third good thing, books books books. I'll admit to doing a lot of rereading these last few months, but that has been such a comfort. And when crime novels have seemed a bit too close to reality, I've discovered a slew of British romantic comedies. Just the ticket.
Fourth good thing, my inner slob to the forefront. I LOVE living in yoga pants and t-shirts/hoodies, and I'm dreading the day I have to get back into "real" clothes. And like Lucy, I've let my hair color grow out, which I'd never have done if not forced. I've discovered I don't mind the gray at the temples nearly as much as I thought I would, and while I'll probably go back to some highlights, no more all-over hair color for me.
Fifth good thing, appreciating the little things, every day. I've really loved the slowing down and not rushing from one activity to another, savoring walks and meals and evenings in front of the fire.
JENN McKINLAY: This is my own personal annus horribilis, so I don’t know that I can actually come up with five things because everything is shrouded in grief and the stages that accompany it but I will try.
One: Yoga pants. I’ve never worn yoga pants before. They’re so comfy! And now I own five pairs. I fear there is no going back.
Two: With all of our lives on hold, my family of four has spent the past nine months in tight quarters and we discovered we really like each other. I mean I suspected that we liked each other before, but it turns out that we really enjoy each other’s company.
Three: Home improvement has been happening all over the house. Those pesky chores we could never seem to manage, we finally had the time to get it done. Then the bathroom flooded, because 2020...but I digress.
I think I’m tapped out now. So long 2020! Not gonna miss you.
HALLIE EPHRON: The best things that happened for me during COVID were getting closer to and appreciating my:
1. Husband
2. Daughters
3. Grandkids
4. Sisters
5. Neighbors
6. Friends
...My cup runneth over.
(Rhys: that is six, but Hallie is allowed to have her cup running over!)
HANK PHILLIPPI RYAN: I’ve thought about this so much. It feels strange to talk about it, when things are so awful, and every day is more insane and terrifying. But yeah. I agree. And in no particular order.
One: Not rushing. The constant pressure of potentially being physically late for something was such a part of my life. Traffic, and expectations, and deadlines, and driving driving flying driving and appointments and appearances, and weather, and airplane delays and ….all that. I could never just--sit there. (So yeah, careful what you wish for.) I’m working harder than ever, somehow, don’t get me wrong, which is so weird. But it’s all from right here in our house.
Two: Leggings and hoodies. WIth t-shirts and blazers and necklaces for Zooms. Seriously, I think the clothes in my closet are sobbing as I walk by and ignore them. I truly wonder if I’ll ever go back to those--I see my elegant heels, SO pretty, and I really enjoyed them. But yikes. I wonder what will happen to fashion. But for right now, it’s amazing to ratchet down. You cannot believe what I wear some days--I look in the mirror and laugh. And love it.
Three: Lunch with my husband. Jonathan has hit this out of the ballpark. He makes lunch every day, and then comes into my office, and says “lunch is ready.” Can you believe that? And we have lunch together. I mean--that is GREAT. I make dinner every night, and happily, and he is so enthusiastic. But wow, lunch is a joy.
Four: A new frugality. And gratitude. I am careful with paper towels, toilet paper, paper in general. Food--I use everything, every bit of everything, and think about how I used to be a little careless about that. Never ever ever will I take food for granted again. And a corollary to that--the people who grow the food, and make the food, and stock the food,and drive the food, and deliver the food. It makes me cry with gratitude. We are SO lucky.
Five: Okay, yeah, Zoom. We started The Back Room, and I do First Chapter Fun, and so many interviews and events and classes, and honestly, it’s great. I’m sure we wouldn’t have expanded our worlds so much without this, and I hope that we keep it on the other side. It’ll be interesting to see what happens, and I hope we find out soon.
RHYS: Dear sisters, these are all so wise and so true. Appreciating the little things, the daily gifts, and someone to share this with. All priceless. And Hank--I agree with you so much about the lack of pressure and rushing. No delayed flights, slow traffic, noisy hotel rooms...bliss!
So how about our dear Jungle Red clan? What are your five blessings?
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